Hey lovelies! I’m so sorry I haven’t posted for so long but you know when you keep meaning to do something and then life gets in the way? Yeah, that happened. I had this idea for this blogpost just the other day when I was looking at positive quotes on Pinterest and Instagram and it struck me- I got a little annoyed at a couple of ones that I was seeing which lead me to think- are all positive quotes portraying the right message if we’re struggling with something?
The first one that made me think of this was ‘no bad days’. I don’t really agree with this quote at all. How can you expect to have no bad days and with that have the mindset that there will be no bad days? It’s just not realistic. Also, it means that when you do have a bad day it might knock you sideways and make you feel guilty for having one- which you totally shouldn’t! For me, anything worth really having never comes completely easy, whether that be work, hobbies, friendships, relationships, fitness or something else. There are always going to be ups and downs because we’re human! I think this phrase also isn’t the healthiest for someone struggling with their mental health. You ARE allowed to have bad days (I’m bed-bound today!) and that shouldn’t be seen as a bad thing. Healing isn’t linear and there are going to be ups and downs and ultimately, the bad days make you appreciate the good ones so much more.
Another quote that doesn’t sit right with me is ‘there are always flowers for those who wish to see them’. I get the sentiment and it is lovely to think that you can always pick out a silver lining in a crap situation- it’s something I always do! But as a woman who’s known what it’s like to be severely depressed, I don’t think this statement sends a completely positive message across. I know what it’s like to wake up and to just not have the energy or want to get out of bed, not because of being lazy, but because you can’t bear to face another day. In those times it is so, so hard to find the positives no matter how much you ‘wish’ to see them and that shouldn’t be seen as a failure on your part. It’s the depression and even though there might always be ‘flowers’ around, it can be so incredibly hard to see them when you’re that low. So, I guess my advice to you on this one is, don’t feel bad if you can’t always see the good. As I said before, we’re all human.
Now even though I see these (and a couple of other) quotes as having a slight counterproductive impact, I strongly believe that positive quotes can have such a major impact on your mood. Just reading a few comforting words, whether they be from a writer, a poet or someone who just ‘gets it” can make you feel so much better about your situation and remind you you’re not alone- this is one of the reasons I want to study English at university next year. I make a habit of collecting a lot of positive postcards and little notelets that I can put around my room to remember the good and it helps me to just remember the good times and that there is light even if I can’t see it right now. I’ve recently been painting my room so had to take them down and I’ve really noticed a difference- I’m suer excited to get them all (or at least most of them) back up again!
Here are some of the ones that have kept me going recently…
So what do you guys think? Am I being too critical or do you agree that some quotes are not always the most helpful for people struggling? Let me know!
That’s it from me for now but I have another blog post coming within the next week (I know, look at me go! Haha) so I’ll catch up with you all then
I’m sending all my love out to you lovely lot,
P.S. If you’re ever in need of a little pick-me-up, check out my Pinterest linked at the top of the page 🙂 xx