Hey lovelies! This post is fully inspired by the lovely Emma Hall (known as Emma Kate Hall here in the blogging community- go check her out, she’s fab). I’ve been a big lover of Emma’s genuine interest and passion of self-improvement for a while now and she inspires me to become a better version of myself. So, I thought I’d take a leaf out of her book and do the ‘5 Bad Habits You Need to Break’ blog post to help encourage me to actually break them as well as hopefully inspiring some of you lovelies to become the best version of yourself.
1. COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
This is something I’m still very much learning not to do. When I first joined the blogger community I was a bit overwhelmed by how talented and stunning all these women were/are. Since then, with some bumps along the way, I’ve learnt to stick to posting what I love, in the style I love, with as little comparison to other’s feeds as I can- and it seems to be working so far! I still have a long way to go regarding not comparing myself to others appearance-wise and in the real world, but I’m proud of myself for making a start. Make sure to give yourself credit for who YOU are, and remind yourself that the best person you can be is yourself (as cheesy as that sounds!)
2. WORRYING ABOUT MONEY
Something that I feel a lot of people my age struggle with is managing money. I know a few people who are so fixated on money and worry about each penny they spend, that they’re stressed most of the time when they’re out and about. For me this is no way to live- you should be enjoying your teens and twenties! If you ask my childhood friends I used to be absolutely awful with money and just didn’t appreciate it. Now since going to uni I’m still bad, but not AS bad but I’ve also realised that money isn’t everything. As my Dad says, ‘it’s just money’ and really doesn’t define happiness. I’m no less happy now being in my overdraft than I was those years ago having money to spare and while I know it is super important to keep track of your spending habits and make sure you have enough to get by, it’s not the be all and end all of everything. I hope you gorgeous individuals realise you have such lovelier things in life to do than worry about overspending and treat yo’self every once in a while!
3. PRETENDING BAD THINGS DON’T HAPPEN
Let’s be real here, bad things do happen in life so trying to keep up an illusion that they don’t is just unrealistic. This doesn’t mean we can’t be positive and proactive when things do go wrong, but I think it’s important to keep things real and realistic- life isn’t perfect and things go wrong all the time and that’s okay. On Instagram (especially) I feel that sometimes there’s this constant stress that you must only show the best bits of your life, the times where things go right. What I try to do and encourage others to do is to put a bit of all of it out there- in my captions I have mentioned many times when I’ve been having bad mental health days, when I’m feeling a bit low about mum or something else that is making me feel a bit rubbish as I want to share all of my life, not just the easy breezy stuff. I really would encourage you to be real with yourself and your friends and audience- you will honestly feel better by not keeping up an unrealistic persona all the time and you will also seem more genuine and approachable.
4. AIMING TO BE PERFECT
Following on from the last point, something I am very guilty of is always striving to be perfect. Whether that’s through my education, my appearance or something else, I always put the pressure on myself to be that ‘perfect girl’. It’s something I’ve been talking to my counsellor about and she’s been trying to make me not strive to be ‘perfect’ (in ‘s because perfect doesn’t exist in us humans!), but to just do the best I can with what I’ve got which seems to be helping so far. I put so much pressure on myself to get rid of my fibromyalgia so I could be ‘normal’ but as soon as I started to work with it and not against it, it became so much more manageable. I’m not saying this is an easy approach at all- it took me months to get to the stage I’m at now- but over time you learn to respect yourself more by not insisting you need to be the best at everything all the time. I’m still struggling with my appearance, but I know I’m me, I’m alright the way I am and one day (hopefully soon) I’ll be extremely happy in my own skin. Be the authentic you- she/he is more than good enough!
5. THINKING YOUR ACTIONS DON’T MATTER
Whether this be with using plastic or the words you say- your little contribution DO matter! If you cut out using plastic as much as you can and help to conserve energy- you’re one more person that is helping save the planet. If you compliment a girl friend- you never know just how much impact your words could have on their confidence. I’ve learnt over time that the little compliments I give people and the changes I make to help the people around me really do make a difference. On the larger scale of things, I know it’s hard to imagine how little you could make a difference with global warming, politics and the other big issues of the world, but every single person does make a difference, even if it’s on a smaller scale. As I’m sure you all know, a lot of people who decide to make a change makes a MASSIVE difference- just look at the Pride celebrations this summer!
Thank you all so much for reading, I hope you enjoyed this a something a little bit different and again, thanks to Emma for inspiring me.
All my love,